This Love Comes With a Tag
Well mistipurple got tagged and in turn she tagged me. No complaints here. Getting tagged is one of my many unpaid jobs. And sometimes it’s actually fun. I assure you this tag should be fun.
This tag requires that the writer define love in three ways. But how? How can I limit myself to just three? I will do my best, but prepare for things to get out of hand. Ready?
- Love is something that cannot really be defined.
- Love is something that requires reciprocation for it to be completed.
- Love is sometimes ignoring the things that might irk you or ruin your day.
What in the hell did I say? What did I mean? Should I elaborate? Well thank you, I think I shall.
When love first hits us a person get all of those chemical reactions. The birds sing. The bees buzz. The heart beats quicker, especially when the mind focuses on the one. And because of this chemical mixture bathing the brain, emotions rule the roost. Infatuation is another word for this. Infatuation makes a boy silly and girl swoon, or vice versa in these modern days. This infatuation feeds and feeds until the chemicals are used up and that other one no longer can spark the infactuation as before.
This is where reciprocation is so important. Now your minds must complement that of your partners. Because if the one thinks one thing and the other thinks another the relationship can be a disaster. Particularly if one of the thoughts is that the other is an idiot, silly, or just a bit too quick with a swoon. Thoughts do not have to be equivalent, but the pair needs to challenge each other to be better, together. Real love happens in the brain with thoughts that transform into thoughtfullness.
Love is toleration. This love comes naturally with your partner. Unless you think your partner is an idiot, silly, or swoons too often. I think a lack of toleration repels partners. Toleration is important for third party relationships too. Vital in fact. The relationships that are kept at an arm’s distance need toleration. Otherwise a person will slight someone that is different just because they are, different. Instead imbrace the difference, or at least ignore it. Love the variety and grow a bit. Just don’t expect the vulgar and extreme to be considered merely different. Sorry. Crap is crap.
These are the three definitions of love I try to use for those I know and meet. But I am also a bit of a materialist too. And I love some things so much!!! I love my books. Give me a good story and leave me be to read it. I love my DVDs. Another great source of story. I love my roleplaying games. Because I control the presentation of the story as the players join me to complete said story. But most of all. I loooooooove my dice. But then again, I’m a geek.
October 16th, 2006 at 6:09 pm
Love’s perfect definition is found in 1 Corinthians 13. But this not a perfect world, eh?
October 16th, 2006 at 6:14 pm
Love is not hate..
October 16th, 2006 at 6:53 pm
Interesting difinition…and Dice…isn’t that gambling or something?
I agree with 1, and agree with the rest. After saying we can’t define, we right on and try anyway.
October 16th, 2006 at 7:04 pm
No Bkworm. This is not a perfect world. But we have to do our best and recover from our mistakes when we make them. Blue Ribbon for you.
Which works well with my point 3 LB. Red Ribbon for you sir.
Really it seems like we try and define love in our own hearts Shoshana. That’s why love is so hard. Too many definitions, which creates mucho imcompatabilities. Ya know? For me dice has never meant gambling. I will post about dice someday. And a White Ribbon for you.
October 16th, 2006 at 7:41 pm
i labu!
October 16th, 2006 at 7:51 pm
yeeeaahh… i love my dice tooooo…
October 16th, 2006 at 9:17 pm
Love doesn’t need to explain.
October 16th, 2006 at 9:18 pm
And Love doesn’t need to be defined too.
October 16th, 2006 at 9:29 pm
so you actually have 8 loves…..
October 16th, 2006 at 9:50 pm
and quoting Culture Club in their old 80’s hit…
You don’t have to touch it to know
Love is everywhere that you go
You don’t have to touch it to feel
Love is every second we steal
October 16th, 2006 at 10:48 pm
and i wonder about the dice too…
*sprinkles Love Dust*
October 16th, 2006 at 10:55 pm
And I love that geek that goes by the name Jerry!
October 16th, 2006 at 11:43 pm
i feel that the famoous line from the old ryan o’neal movie ‘love story’ - “love is never having to say you are sorry” - is totally wrong. if you love someone, you would always be willing to say sorry to her/him if you had done something wrong. perhaps the phrase meant to mean that in the first place if you love someone, you wouldn’t have hurt (done wrong) that person.
October 17th, 2006 at 5:53 am
Hi,Love is beautiful feeling,A feeling even when you are down that brings you up.I blogged about this He!He!He! love is all or nothing( my two bit).
Thanks for sharing.
Wish you well
October 17th, 2006 at 6:50 am
awwww
just got here from misti’s,you guys give the best definition of love
i AGREE!!!
love really is about toleration and sometimes we just have to close one eye to certain things…hard yes….esp the idiosyncracies of our partners…awwwww
October 17th, 2006 at 9:35 am
I labu too Wuching. And your Star Wars minis!
You a gamer Ah Pek?
But when the tag comes Titoki. One must obey. And I have not forgotten I owe you a tag. Yikes!
It keeps me busy FF.
I was thinking about quoting some songs too May. Love Stinks by the J Geils Band was in the back of my mind.
Whoa! I been sprinkled. Promise to blog about dice sometime Angel.
*blushes* Aw garsh Socialpest.
I have to agree with you Lucia. When you love somebody you better be ready to say you’re sorry and mean it too.
Hey Zingtrail. Yep. Have to agree with that too.
But you honey has you Pink Cotton. What a bonus? My poor missus has a lot of toleration going on. Tough being around a game geek and raising a pair of game geeks. hehe
October 17th, 2006 at 10:35 am
I like that love is tolerance. I figure that when you are in love with someone, you love them as a whole package, rather than just choosing the less annoying bits. You have to love all of a person, else why bother? Which isn’t to say that the annoying bits stop being annoying. They just end up annoying, but a loveable quirk.
October 17th, 2006 at 11:16 am
Love will keep us alive… by Eagles
October 17th, 2006 at 11:40 am
heeeeeeeeeeeey i am baaaaack!!
October 17th, 2006 at 11:45 am
LOVE…is many splendour things…
October 17th, 2006 at 12:49 pm
Yep Kimananda. Also number 3 is good to apply to people on the street. Still don’t have this down, especially when I drive.
I need to go listen to that song again, Kenny. Wonder what album that is?
Yay!!!!. Hugs. So good to see you stranger (aka JJ)
Oh gosh Angeleyes. That brings back memories of my childhood. My Dad played that record a lot.
October 17th, 2006 at 3:42 pm
hehe. i think your love definition is the longest. and hitting the nail on the head too! glad you enjoyed the tag. i knew you would. talking about love fits you to a T.
October 17th, 2006 at 4:27 pm
You know me misti. I’m windy. Cannot say nothing in just a little space. Is that good? 0.0
October 17th, 2006 at 5:47 pm
that is more than good, silly you! and hyuk hyuk back at ya!
i get up at 7am after sleeping at 5.30am to be greeted by your ‘hyuk hyuk hyuk’. that certainly puts a smile on my face. *sticks tongue at you*
and did you just said you’re windy? no wonder. there was a fart smell when i got in.
(i sound mean when i get closer to people i know. thought i should exprain my tone. lol. *wink*)
October 17th, 2006 at 7:00 pm
I left a fart so you would knock out and maybe get some real rest dearie. Hugs. You meanie weanie. hyuk hyuk hyuk
October 17th, 2006 at 9:55 pm
Hey.. lots of MEME lately huh?
Like your definition of love, but not always we get recipocrated.. but it’s a nice feeling when we do.
October 18th, 2006 at 10:56 am
this is indeed a lovely post. Full of loves
pssss.. My doggy loves his dice too
(his birthday pressie which I gave him for his 2 years old birthday) I had a post of him playing with his dice
October 18th, 2006 at 1:29 pm
Reciprocation is a must. Otherwise one is feeling incomplete ZM.
Your doggie is a gamer Chen. We’ll get along just great.